Yep. Happens to me 24/7.

Let him chase you. Let him miss you. Just let him be. Let him be a man.

UNEXPECTED

“Just because something started out wrong doesn’t mean it can’t end up right.”

I have been contemplating on this line for quite a few days already and it just seems so applicable to my present love life. Is this even possible? Do I really know what I am saying? Where do we even go from here ‘cause apparently, every question is just followed by another. The thing is, the more you think about, the crazier this whole thing becomes. Or maybe, this isn’t just a thing?

It’s more than that feeling of having butterflies in your stomach. even more than your pounding chest, pulse racing, fast heartbeat and hormones suddenly acting up. It’s something that I’ve never felt for a very long time - about a couple of years. No. Scratch that because it’s definitely better than that. It’s about loving his uniqueness, his efforts, his way of loving me. It’s him being serious when all I could think about before was how to avoid getting into serious relationships. It’s like I’ve been smacked on my face because obviously and ironically, this man knows my worth more than I do. And it’s totally a shame because he wanted that spot though I have already expressed that that wasn’t what I was expecting him to ask from me.

We met unexpectedly and as I believe, the circumstances weren’t right. But time had its way of letting us get to know each other even if it was wrong. He came when I was just leaving everything about my past behind, including a not-so-typical and desirable kind of relationship and a job I assumed I would have for the many years to come. I was just beginning to figure out where I was heading to. But the communication remained intact while I was in that crucial stage in my life. After being several miles away and now that I’ve set new goals in my life, everything is running smoothly. It keeps getting better and better, actually.

Honestly, I am overwhelmed with how things are going right now. It might be soon to tell and everything that’s happening is just too good to be true but I am glad of taking this risk. Everything started with a surprise and surprises didn’t stop until now. I am not wishing this could go on forever like how a fairy tale would normally end. I am just hoping that we could make each day count, not wasting a minute of it.

This man who’s a real gentleman, who remains consistent, who fulfills his promises he made, who calls me at random times just to check up on me, who surprises and travels for hours just to see me, who spends his time with me. This man is a real blessing to me.

It can end up right, can it?

THIS FRIENDSHIP

I’ve been back-reading our messages and I just noticed that we’ve been talking for years with inconsistent number of days/ months apart. We sure did fought a lot about some petty matters but what I like most is that we talked about life, love and several other things. We shared with each other our deepest, darkest secrets. It’s just like an open book for us. We enjoyed our similarities and finally learned and accepted our differences. He was there when I was heartbroken, and comforted me while I was  ranting about my work, family problems and the like. And on the day that my daddy passed away, he sent me this message but I chose not to respond. Kept on asking me how am I doing, he was there all along. This friendship is amazing. I wouldn’t trade this for the world! <3

I am enjoying this! Oh, I just love a good book! 😍👌📖📚❤️

Distractions

Here are my fave distractions whether you are heartbroken or confronting any drama or whatsoever.. in no particular order

1. Movies - Yes, movies with friends or just by yourself will do.  Anything that is pleasing to the eyes is GOOD. I did this before. Wont be able for now.. Although, this is quite painful if you’re saving up for something. I will definitely do this again… sometime

2. Books - PERFECT distraction for me. since I own a Kindle, this is soooo cheap. Sometimes a person just needs to have that quality time with self, over a cup of tea or coffee or choco drink. with any of these 3 while reading a satisfying novel, you can never go wrong.

3. Catching up with family and/or friends - Very social. Who doesn’t need friends or just that someone who’ll uplift you and go along with the drama you’re having. Sometimes all you need is a friend or someone who’ll just listen..Makes you feel that once in a while youre not alone

4. Food - I love this. Bit hurtful to your pocketsss though. And maybe you’ll kind of regret it, say, after a few weeks or …….. NOT. Satisfying one’s craving, now that’s awesome!!! Don’t ever deprive yourself when it comes to foood

5. New acquaintances - Yesss, definitely. By new acquaintances, I’m not only referring to guys but same sex as well. doesnt matter who but meeting someone new and unfamiliar is quite refreshing.. 

6. A day at the salon - Okay, i dont necessarily mean getting that new haircut, a short one just so you’ll tell the world that HEY, IM SINGLE, JUST GOT OVER A FVCKN BREAKUP AND NOW IM OKAY BUT AFTER THIS HAIRCUT, I KNOW I’LL CRY TO SLEEP AGAIN TIL THIS HAIR GROWS LONG… A day to pamper, that’s just it.

7. Music trippin - Not the sentimental ones! Dont. even. try. Listen to the rock songs, party songs… which will lead to number 8.

8. Go rebel - Sometimes a rebellious side will release all the frustrations that have been wanting to burst all this time! Go party, go drink. 

9. Look at the mirror and say “I’m beautiful!” “I’m hot, sexy and gorgeous!” Trust me, this will boost your confidence if it’s been buried for yearsss

10. Faith - Just a short prayer or a quick call to God, having real life conversations.. doesnt matter if youre doing something during that moment, but just talk to Him.

11. Retail therapy - This is working for most ladies but if ever youre on a budget, dont even try this one. You can sulk up to reading books instead which, in the meantime, is helping me a LOT.

And the list goes on.. 

There are actually a lot of distractions which will work for just about everyone. But all have diff preferences. These worked for me. If ever i do get to experiment or try another one thatd add up to my list, good! For now, these are working for me just fine. And yes, drama doesnt stop. thats life! :)

PS I’m thinking of one thing to add, I have something in mind, lets see. with the right circumstances, i’ll take it into consideration

Gradual process at work, literally

Gradual process step 1:dont text him, not even a msg on viber and fb. Refrain from checking if he’s online.

Step 2: never attend that little peptalk. Never! Shudnt be in there.

Step 3: maybe the last step and the hardest one. Be casual. When he sees u, act like normal. Just that professional type of rel. Smile but no hint of kilig. Just play it cool.

A week of not seeing him is helpful but that one month will be crucial. Focus.

Ohhh and i forgot. When there are no questions asked, dont speak. No kwento such as divulging info. No kwentos. Passive. Save ur saliva.

Crazy moments 😜😝😂

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